Too Much Too Soon

I got off track with the last post hence I decided to carry on documenting the horrors in another. It really bothers me when a post is never ending....hence I will make a conscious effort to keep each post as short as possible.

So horror 2 actually disappointed me a tad. See with the first horror ( previously documented), not much was invested. On the contrary, horror 2 came across intelligent, conversational, polite, mannerable, all the desirables. He even offered to take the conversation offline and sent his direct email address to create a more intimate, personal commune. 

We conversed and he expressed he was looking for someone he could get to know, not a committment of sorts ( thank heavens) but something that has a connection, you know? And ofcourse that is not a bad thing. He disappeared one weekend, well he didn't really disappear, he stated he was heading out for a long planned trip. I don't know why he felt the need to 'explain' that to me, lol....as if I had asked. Hmmm, sounds like guilty conscience speaking loudly, lol....I felt he was going on some other sugar excursion...which is like not a problem with me so why try to even give a reason. Just say, you'll be away and that's it...right??

Anywho, on his return, the email came in quite promptly and he sounded quite enthused! It was along the lines of "Back from my trip, and I am looking forward to picking up where we left off. I have a lot of catching up to do at work, blah blah...but tell me a lil about yourself and let's pick up the threads. My emails from now on will be more constant"

I responded and accidentally sent the reply blank to which he replied immediately, "your reply was empty"

Excitedly, I wrote up a nice, considerate email, wishing him he had a nice time, hoping he got over his workload, blah blah all the pleasantries. When it came to the telling about myself part, I was a tad hesitant...I had spent the night thinking what to write. I hate the 'tell me about yourself' request. I decided to throw it out there and told him I was a student in my second year doing my second degree, leading the life of a single mum, divorced a few years back,  grew up in the Caribbean, came to London at 16, blah blah. Just throwing it all out there like a darn fool....lmaooooooooo ( boy, you live and learn, don't ya)...ehehheehee.

I ended the email with something like " and suddenly I am overcome with a feeling that I have divulged too much, ah well...it's your turn!! "  ( talk about self fulfilling prophecy..lol)

And what do you think the horror did? 

Shaking my head....the horror didn't even see it fit to reply and say 'okay, thanks for that, it shall be ending here'.....lmao...not even that. I got nada...nada...nada...nada...

Hence, another lesson learnt...never divulge personal info. and life stories...Gee, what the heck was I thinking??? LOL. After approx. two weeks of what appeared to be a good connection, too much info. was all it took.

And I still wonder, was it the 'oh she has a kid' that scared him? Or was it 'oh she's a divorcee?' Or even 'Two degrees, nay, too much brains there..'....lol....guess I'll never know...but .........................................


 I ask, when it comes to potential sugar daddies....... IS LESS MORE ?????????

The Right Price

Hey girlies....Sup?    lol...Just felt like doing a lil 'ghetto' thing there....lol...anywho....

I was thinking that I hadn't told you girls about the S.D's still in the running. I guess because they weren't so constant I classed them as weeds. But a few are still in the running...

Oh but before I get to them let me give ya'll some info. on a few horrors I ran into. First off, on my second day of joining S.A., I recieved a message from a pot.     Huh?? Jaws on the floor ! Because to be frank, I seek my pots, they have never sought me...so this was a shocker. Opened the mail and it read "you're hot, would you be interested in short term or one off adult fun ...for spoiling?"........


Right....exactly. That's why I left two spaces...since that was definitely cause for pause...lol....But you know being that you're new and all, you are somewhat caught between intrigue, flattery, kerching and what not....so you think....well let me reply and see. 
Before I replied though, I asked myself....would I be interested in one off? (Dude didn't even have a pic by the way). So I was wrestling with my morals....doesn't one off mean escorting? Lawd....lol...so it was a dilemma....I resorted to asking the S.A. bloggers...(because I hadn't discovered ya'll lovelies yet, lol). Anywho...to cut a long story short, the advice was..." hell no...girl he clearly looking for an escort, not a sugar babe" etc. etc.

So I was left with thinking....hmmmm...do I mind being an escort? 

FOR THE RIGHT PRICE?????????????????????

I reflected upon it and thought okay here's how I'mma reply...( yeah I know, doing the ghetto ebonics thing again, lol...just in that kinda mood, eheheheee) ...." I don't mind one off or short term arrangements as long as all parties are clear on what is; and have an agreeable arrangement. What does spoiling constitute? Are we talking allowances or gifts?"

He responded,
" cash, how about £250.00 (approx. $400 U.S. dollars) for dinner and a night of adult fun" 

My first thought was...'he's having a laugh right'? LOL....because I sure was. Now this is just me, I am not judging anyone for what they see as fitting but that would only cover my time for dinner. Hence I replied, 
  " Thank you for your offer. I have considered it and would have no problems with that, however £250 ($400) would only cover dinner."


And that was that. Never heard from him again. 

Now was I being a snob? I don't think so....I didn't sign up for sugardom to be an escort. I signed up to get a taste of the -good life-(whatever that is) and to save a substantial amount of money along the way to be quite comfortable, learn the tricks and trades to sooner rather than later make my own millions. Thus, I can't be messing about with chum change.

BUT with that said, I would damn well consider seriously one night of adult fun for a tempting figure. Had he said £1,000 ($1,500), then damn....maybe be I woulda done it....tut tut tut....lol

So now I am questioning what the heck are my morals/values??? 

Because....................................................

when it's all said and done....does everyone really have a price???? 

Fake Tan

Lol...so The D said he is looking forward to seeing me 'when I get  back and he is going to be so jealous of my tan'...

Uh oh...lightbulb moment....if I am away in such a hot place like where I told him, then I should definitely have a tan right? Oh dear...so I thought...okay just try a fake tan. But as ya'll can see..I'm Black...lol and I don't know anything about fake tans...

So I am thinking I'll just wing it and hope that because I am Black I can get away with not having a tan...lol...Maybe I can use a little golden shade on top of my make up to give me a slight glow.

Anyhow, I'll keep you posted on the happenings.

Not Ready To Meet

So THE D wants to meet up. Aaaah, he is so sweet although I don't want to be singing praises yet as I have read from you babes how they can seem so genuine and then BAM...they're frogs!  So not getting too excited yet. Anyhow he was like ' would you like to meet for coffee/ lunch/ dinner? ' aaah, how cute. 

But I am not ready to meet him yet. So I lied a little and told him  " sure, I would love to when I get back as I am currently abroad on holiday but will be back in three weeks. I would love to meet when I get back."  

 That's terrible right? lol...I know but I just am not ready to meet him yet and though I am afraid he might be scooped up by some other pot. sb...if he is still around when I get back ( not really, lol) then that says he is really interested perhaps. And it will be interesting to see if he still keeps in touch with me from across the miles...
He wrote back and said, ' ok, let me know when you do and keep in touch with me.'  I think he's turning out to be pretty decent so let's see.

Weeding Out The Weeds

So what I have first discovered is that you must learn to weed the sugarland. Like I said in my profile, I am new to Sugarland and this is my first lesson. I joined the infamous S.A. about three weeks ago and started sending emails to every potential I saw. That is lesson two. I told myself that I am not going to sit around and wait for a pot. SD to come find me, afterall I am the one seeking the lifestyle.

After receiving a few replies, I was ecstatic. It was like everything was happening so fast, I was damn near overwhelmed. I decided to reply to every single one, tentatively i.e. You know you have to feel them out and seeing that I was new to this sort of thing, I didn't want to come across amateur. 

Then I noticed I lost some of them along the way, for one reason or another, I really don't know. We'll be having what seems a good exchange and then..wham...no reply...lol.... So I learnt and I'm still learning to weed out the weeds. The list has now whittled down to one. I shall call him ....THE D., as his first name begins with D.


I am somewhat focusing on him as he seems to be the only constant. The others are wishy washy so they're weeds atleast for now. 


The D is keen on meeting and explained from the bat that he is not only looking for a physical relationship but also someone whom he gets along with and has chemistry with, which is a good sign. He is obviously not only interested in getting his 'tool' wet. ......Still, I was a little apprehensive on that, we'll wait and see what that means.